Comments on: “Not of My Making”

By: Kathleen

Kathleen — Wed, 15 Sep 2010 23:59:37 +0000

I have just found this site and find it very interesting. I stopped going to an IFB church 5 years ago because of the legalism and unloving attitude everyone there had. This is to Still an IFB. You sir are a very judgmental and hateful person. I do not see the love of God anywhere in your statement only defensiveness. Maybe the truth that is told on this website hits too close to home for you to handle.

By: David

David — Sun, 15 Aug 2010 02:34:09 +0000

This site, voicesforchrist.org has been a great help and is easy to see why there is so many problems in the IFB churches the pastor has all the parts of the body. Click on voices then scoll down to JB Nicholson Look for the message (The Body) it great you can find it on youtube if you want to watch it.
Like to hear your comments.

By: Stil an IFB

Stil an IFB — Fri, 13 Aug 2010 04:06:00 +0000

it seems like this is a pretty good page for some people that wants to cry. we hear one side of the story. let;s everyone feel sorry and tell them they are right. after all it is pure gospel to hear one side. why don’t you grow up. admit the truth that you love your sin and hate authority from anyone. you are trying to find any way possible to justify your sin. what spiritual growth has truly taken placed since your bitterness.
Still an IFB

By: david

david — Wed, 27 May 2009 07:24:31 +0000

Thanks for having this on your webpage and thanks to the author for coming here as well replying to me. I haven’t checked out the book yet, but hopefully I can find it and read it in the near future.

By: Site Admin

Site Admin — Wed, 20 May 2009 20:04:17 +0000

Just wanted to say a BIG THANK YOU to Dr. Jones for taking the time to come and answer questions and share her new book. This stop on her book tour didn’t go quite as smoothly as I had hoped (my fault about that), but I’m really glad that we had several questions and this information is now a permanent part of this site. I’m looking forward to finding out how many people have been helped because of this book. What an AWESOME opportunity this has been. Thanks again!!!

By: Margaret W Jones

Margaret W Jones — Tue, 19 May 2009 00:53:56 +0000

@Bill In my book I share what I was reading as I healed and my reactions to each one. There is a reference list in the back of Not of My Making. The books that stand out in my memory are The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse, Sexual Violence by Marie Marshal Fortune, Michael Thompson's book on the social lives of children, Barbara Coloroso's The Bully, the Bullied and the Bystander.

By: Bill

Bill — Tue, 19 May 2009 00:08:41 +0000

I know you have written a book, but would you mind sharing what books have been influential in your personal healing and recovery?

By: Margaret W Jones

Margaret W Jones — Mon, 18 May 2009 21:01:09 +0000

@Lynn I am slow to trust others. I am trying to be more neutral. I don't think it is an entirely bad thing. Trust is something you earn and don't have a right to. To say someone has a trust problem puts the burden on them when I think it should be the other way around. I think it is wise to let people prove themselves with you slowly.

By: Margaret W Jones

Margaret W Jones — Mon, 18 May 2009 20:57:46 +0000

@Sean No I don't recall the Bible ever trigger PTSD symptoms, at least not during the church conflicts. Instead, it was a rock to hold on to and gain comfort. Since Immanuel, however, I have trouble with Matthew 18: 15-17 and a couple of other passages. That is why in tonight's bible study we are doing Matthew. I am trying to work through it.

By: Margaret W Jones

Margaret W Jones — Mon, 18 May 2009 20:54:30 +0000

@david I would have selected the churches I belonged to more carefully paying more attention to church politics and how they treated people who disagreed with leadership. But of course to have done that I would need the knowledge I have gained through my experiences. There are people who appear to have this knowledge and who don't get caught the way I did. Perhaps they learned it in school or from their parents.

By: Lynn

Lynn — Mon, 18 May 2009 20:23:57 +0000

In Question 5 you talk a little bit about relationships. Can you talk about how your trust in people has been affected and how you’ve managed to over come mistrust?

By: Sean

Sean — Mon, 18 May 2009 20:22:36 +0000

Would you mind telling a little bit about any PTSD type symptoms you may have? How does this affect your ability to read the Bible? In other words, are certain passages of the Bible difficult for you to read? Do they bring up memories of your abuse?

By: Margaret W Jones

Margaret W Jones — Mon, 18 May 2009 18:26:55 +0000

I don’t know what has happened but I have been waiting since this morning for Steve to post my answers to several questions about Not of My Making. Perhaps he expected me to introduce myself. I wasn’t sure so I waited. But if anyone has any questions I am here today.

By: david

david — Sun, 17 May 2009 06:50:22 +0000

If you had a choice whether or not to go through the same stuff, would you change anything or would you still go through it because of the knowledge you’ve gained?